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High Tea Society spoke with Australian journalist and businesswoman Ita Buttrose, on the eve of the launch of her book “A Guide to Australian Etiquette”. We talked about table manners, social media and high tea.
Ita’s five tips for table manners:
- Never start eating until everyone has been served unless your host tells you not to wait. At a formal dinner party, wait until the host or guest-of-honour picks up their knife and fork before beginning to eat.
- Put your napkin on your lap.
- Don’t pig out on the bread and leave only crumbs. If the bread basket is in front of you, take one piece and then pass the basket to the person on your right.
- Chew your food with your mouth closed. Don’t wave your knife and fork around to make a point.
- Don’t eat with your fingers unless you’ve been served finger food. If in doubt follow your host’s lead.
The Ritz, :'London'
Ita’s five tips on using social media:
- Always take time to stop and think before you post something on Facebook, MySpace, YouTube or other internet social networking sites. Do you really want people to know such things about you?
- Never post anything or send an email in anger, otherwise you might regret it later. The same advice applies if you’ve had a few drinks.
- Don’t include personal attacks on other people in messages because they could come back to haunt you. That’s especially true about emails because they can be recovered and provide a record that could be interpreted wrongly, Emails are often used as evidence in court cases.
- Don’t forward emails without the sender’s permission either.
- And don’t feel compelled to always have the last word. Some email messages do not need responses.
Tip from "Racing Fashion", The Trend right now is to have 'Hats (for sale and incorporate) High Tea' and incorporate the selling of hats with High Tea.
Ladies, please watch the price of your 'High Tea' as what may cost the organiser something like $35 per head, you may be charged an extra $50 per head just to take a seat. In most cases, some may claim it is in the name of charity, but you are lining the pockets of the orgainser. When a charity is involved ask what part of the money is going to charity, ie: ticket sales.
In most cases it is only the raffle sales and still you have to be sure the charity is affiliated as an official charity.
Allot of the models do the modelling free and tell allot of people are getting great exposure to sing or sell something. It is beginning to be a bit of a sham in my point of view and when I accept an invite to a 'High Tea' in the name of charity, I make sure where my money is going first.
My favourite thing is to not cost people to much and help. My last visit to Grafton (Grafton Cup) when I was so kindly invited by Candy Lane Store, we organised the 100 club where we could have less than 100 people and Charge $35 per head for a cocktail evening with heaps of food. $10 of the ticket went straight into the pockets of the charity. A women's homeless shelter in the area. We had raffles a good night, talking fashion and also talking mindfulness about how we can help in the community to give people a hand and how easy it may be to become homeless without the right support from the community. There were hats for sale, but it was more an education in showing ladies how to have confidence in a hat. Having a group under 100, I can meet and greet every person that has taken time to spend with myself and others. I don't like the forum of speakers, it is much to non personal. I am always happy on my interstate country journeys to have meetings with local ladies in the name of charity and learn from them as they may learn from me.
Remember don't take a piece of the pie, make sure there is enough for all to eat.